If you do not mind me asking, did you to intend to have the children at the time that you had. Its not very clear from your comment and was just curious. If its too personal, my apologies and please ignore.
No problem. I consider this part of my therapy session now, part of writing a letter to a fictional friend, so lets go personal.
Well, I always wanted children, but not at that moment, I was not ready. I just didn't have the heart to go for an abortion. I did consider it though and that still hurts. It still burns, I never would have forgiven myself. Only in the darkest of hours you should consider that.
We still together and have 4 kids now. I am happy how it all worked out. Could have been worse.
Yeah, I think that's true. I consider myself utterly incompetent for this task, and yet I've ended up with eight step-children over the years. It sucks for all concerned, but something is usually better than nothing.
Very glad for you that it worked out. An abortion one regrets … that would be a dark place. Thanks for responding.
In addition to letters to a fictional friend you could also think of writing a journal for your very non-fictional children. I am sure they would appreciate that when they grow up into adults.
Well, I always wanted children, but not at that moment, I was not ready. I just didn't have the heart to go for an abortion. I did consider it though and that still hurts. It still burns, I never would have forgiven myself. Only in the darkest of hours you should consider that.
We still together and have 4 kids now. I am happy how it all worked out. Could have been worse.
It helps to write, so thank you for asking :)