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I went through something similar with a parent years and years ago. I wanted to be able to do things to help with what would eventually be lost.

I have to say I didn't help as much as I thought I could and afterwards I was always wondering if I could have used this technology or that and done more.

So - I think you should recognize that you can only do so much, we're doing the best we can, and in the end we are all winging it.