[asdfman123]

False dichotomy. You can be confident, brash, and rude to each other all day long, as long as everyone is in on it and everyone is socially intelligent enough to know each other's boundaries.

The problem is when people tell themselves "that's just how I am" and don't have a high enough EQ to notice that they're coming across as jerks.

Everyone is different and everyone requires a personal touch. It's important for people to understand how to get along with those who aren't exactly like them.

[gramontblanc]

Didn't mean to assert a dichotomy, more wondering whether the size of the effect of importance of emotional safety for expressive freedom varies with some kind of external measure of confidence