| I have something to say but I know my anecdote experience isn't worth much so I will shut. If I had a choice again, at the cost of being in poverty in future, I wouldn't go to school let alone college. It has given me enough PTSD as a young person that despite all the evidence and stories of success or barrier to entries, I personally wouldn't choose that path and I have had a poverty driven life my early childhood so I am aware of how it is. It is better. Buying a bottle of sodium nitrite or jumping from a tall building doesn't cost much or require years of mental fatigue. Although there are certainly more factors than school behind this. School just amplified it. Some young people do evaluate all the risks and potential of backfiring it. They live in fear of it but no one cares about why. It's fine to be emotional from a whitelist of decisions you can take but it's not fine to do that for school or college. There is no safety net for these students in most places. Even if there is, I bet most parents are wholly unaware and know how to handle the situation. There are no in-person learning places, resources whatsoever. All of them half baked. A lot of open source or coding/cs initiatives now a days require you to be a student at some college. People selectively filter out those all the time. Great! They have plenty good enough reasons to do this but that doesn't mean I have to see them in the good light because it does say that I am worth less because I wasn't willing to be a punching bag for longer. Young people also tend to bully others about this more than the adults. If someone asked me whether they should go to college or finish school, I would totally yes if they are fine. But if that person had a terrible experience, driven to taking anti depressants, mood stabilizers and being on shit ton of anxiety pills out of that. I would tell them to quit after reconsidering the consequences. It's cruel people think otherwise. If all you could have is suffering and all people say it gets better, it's cruel bullshit because they aren't in the same situation. Anyone's reaction to their finger burning down isn't to wait for it to pass or follow the protocol on how to put out the fire or treat wounds unless they have been extensively taught. It's to panic and take the most emotionally rational decision they can take to protect themselves which sometimes might be different from what you should have done. Would you blame that person? |