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by bsuh
2211 days ago
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Maybe it's just best to let go instead of trying to mini-max your life's productivity, train yourself like Pavlov's dogs with XYZ productivity systems, and guilt-shame yourself over each day you miss out on part of an evergrowing habit list of shoulda-coulda-woulda's. Maybe procrastination is an emotional regulation problem and tying your self-worth to your productivity leads to more internal conflict between guilt of not doing enough vs fear of failure. Maybe we could approach improvement out of a place of genuine interest or self-care, instead of treating ourselves like a computer on a cron schedule and then inevitably getting frustrated when we discover that we're human. |
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Ask yourself:
'Why do I want to make this change?'
'Why does doing this thing make me feel bad?'
The answer to the first question is just for you and it should be solid. If you don't believe it then it's not going to work. The answer to the second question is usually either because you have had a bad experience in the past or because it's enough out of your comfort zone that it challenges your identity. It takes a lot less than you would imagine to challenge your identity.
If you can work through these issues a little bit before you start on your journey of change and continue working on them as you go it will be a much smoother ride and you will be far less likely to give up. It involves being OK with negative emotion during the act and taking the time to process those feelings afterwards.
The cool thing is this doesn't just apply to productivity but anything you want to change in your life. Sometimes you need change and sometimes you are just guilting yourself into doing things other people told you were good for you. That is why you start by asking 'why?'.