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by johnydepp 2230 days ago
I dont wanna be rude. But if you cant find words to talk for 2 minutes every 2 days, you are very disconnected.
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Maybe we're so connected that our lives and relationship run smoothly without constantly checking on each other?
I'd be worried if my wife expected me to call more frequently than that because it would imply our relationship wasn't as solid as I thought it was. Also British.

To me a strong relationship is one that lasts across time and physical distance without constant attention. Obviously within limits. But if my wife expected me to call her everyday, or vice versa, I could only assume that there was an insecurity/neediness that hadn't been appropriately handled.

wtf is the point of a two-minute call? text me
Maybe the other person enjoys being on the phone and hearing your voice.
phone calls (POTS voice) are better than text, thats not only my opinion, but also for those on the receiving end of the call
The point is showing you're there for the person, giving them the opportunity to mention something that's on their mind. It's about showing a special sense of availability, contrary to the texting availability that you provide to anyone else on God's green earth that may have your phone number saved or written down somewhere.
texting isn't ideal because you might get a response in an hour, or two days, or the next minute.

there's a lot of value in being fully present for a social interaction: when you're on the phone and paying attention, it's typically a lot more engaging than the other person watching a video, texting 4 other people at the same time, or whatever else people do in between texts.