[symplee]

(Serious question) I'm curious to hear more about "ruthlessly optimizing" your emotional environment and relationships. That is not something heard everyday...

Or if you'd prefer not to personally summarize, are there any books, articles, videos, etc, you can recommend that expand on this overall life philosophy?

[eloff]

It's not the right word for that, but in general just be extremely picky about serious qualities in your partner. Ditch bad relationships and maybes quickly, because there is a high opportunity cost. Value peace in a relationship, and stay away from people who like to fight.