[dkarl]

For me, it was important to learn the converse, that other people will interpret my behavior in a situation as being about them. I have social anxiety and other issues that tend to create a strong undercurrent of aversion and discomfort in me in any social interaction. I realize now that a lot of people think I don't like them because when they talk to me they can read in my face that on a deep level I would rather not be interacting with them. I do my best to communicate enjoyment and interest, but in the context of evident discomfort, it can come off as fake. The onus is on me to minimize (ideally) or hide (when necessary) my social discomfort so people don't think I'm faking my appreciation of them.