[twomoretime]

>software engineers didn't want to acknowledge the privilege they've been living with

Maybe people would be less hostile to the idea if you didn't dismiss the fruits of their labor with accusations of "privilege." It's kind of insulting to be told that you effectively didn't earn part or all of your success because of your race and/or gender.

[ajhurliman]

Maybe privilege is the wrong word (I never used that word in these discussions), and race/gender is completely tangential to this conversation.

I'm not trying to say that the status is unearned, either, but I see why developers wouldn't want to agree with me. It's not humbling at all, and can appear arrogant.