[jonasvp]

> Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it.

Absolutely - I've learned this the hard way and it's giving me new appreciation for phone calls.

It's amazing how many people do _not_ remember that an email chain of several hundred pages _will_ contain something incriminating or embassaring if forwarded to someone outside the original circle of recipients.

[JoeAltmaier]

Sometimes even that isn't enough. You have to read it twice. I was having a text exchange with a manager on the road. Hard to come to a consensus that way. So I wanted to talk when he got back to the shop.

I texted "We can talk some more when you get it."

One letter. The issues it caused lasted for years.

[MauranKilom]

Sorry, I don't see the one letter change that fixes the message. What did you intend to say?

[mattkrause]

"Get in" -> arrive here (i.e., let's continue the discussion in person)

"Get it" --> understand (i.e., you need to take some time to realize why I'm right).

[crankylinuxuser]

Damn.

Sure would have been nice if they assumed a automiscorrect rather than a nasty comment.

[JoeAltmaier]

Yeah I never talked to that manager again. They wouldn't return my calls or emails.

[Torwald]

That is a form of bullying. She bullied you.

Edit: To clarify. If you just cut the chord to someone, negating any chance of a constructive resolvement of the conflict, than that is bullying. It is not the same as to terminate communication, you can do choose to agree on that.

[MaxBarraclough]

It's not just email. New joiners may be able to read old posts on chat threads or forums.