[chuck9302]

> This made me feel bad because it implied an assumption of thoughtlessness on my part and did little to help me out.

You need to man up. How was your colleague supposed to know that you had already attempted that if there was no evidence of it and you didnt mention it? I can see absolutely nothing wrong with what the reviewer did in your example. The only thing wrong it seems is your attitude.

> I don't know what about my personality inspires this behavior. These comments seem to be directed more at me than at other people.

Is it possible that you just don't produce the quality of work that the rest of the team would like you do produce? What do you expect the others to do? Not point things out in your PR reviews because they dont want to hurt your feelings? This isn't kindergarten.

> Can I find a better situation as a programmer or should I leave tech?

If you left tech where would you work instead? Do you think that lawyers don't point out faults in each others work? Doctors face law suits all the time if they make mistakes. Or maybe you want to leave the professional world all together and take up a trade like brick-laying. Do you think that a building site manager won't say something if your brick-laying is sub-standard? It sounds like the issue lies squarely with you here.

[sosilkj]

i wouldn't put it quite like the person above did, but i would say: there are ways to diplomatically address, deflect, or dismiss (as needed) these types of things from teammates. if what you did was good enough in your opinion, then a one-line response saying 'yeah, tried that, didn't work' is probably fine. start thinking about the politics of your workplace. e.g., think about: who do you need to keep happy in your team/dept? the answer won't be 'everybody', that's for sure. your time matters.