[toomuchtodo]

It's a choice to work a non-remote job though. My partner could work, but it wouldn't be remote, so she's a stay at home parent while I work remote, enabling us to live somewhere rural (which also happens to be cheaper; one income easily supports a family of four).

Both people in a relationship could work remote jobs to enable geospatial freedom, also a choice! When someone says that working remote isn't a solution though, that's not accurate. They're saying, "I've chosen a work arrangement that is incompatible with remote work".

[t3rabytes]

That's something we've been looking at recently, actually -- moving somewhere cheaper, but the problem we've found is that there just really aren't any jobs that she's interested in in the area we've been looking at (even outside of her current field, which she wants to leave anyway) -- we're looking at one spot in particular because of my mountain biking hobby and because I've lived there and have a lot of family there --, and we don't have kids, so it's hard to determine "okay, is it fine for us to just move and for you to have no idea on what job you want to do there?" even though my income is more than enough to sustain us (4x hers).

For her, the idea of doing that -- moving with no job or even an idea of what job to do there -- doesn't sit well. She doesn't like the implied dependence on me and that others may see her as a failure because she doesn't have a job for X time or an idea of what she wants to do. I can do all I can to convince her that that isn't the case and that not everyone has their sights set on something when they're in high school/college (I did, which doesn't help). Ultimately I think the change would be good since I think her job/boss in our current city is toxic and mentally rough, such that moving to an entirely new area with totally different prospects could create a positive.

[veggieburglar]

What spot are you looking at? Asking as a mountain biker.

Itching to get out on a road trip once it’s possible.

[t3rabytes]

Brevard, NC. All of my family is from there and lives there and the trails are good, hard to say no to.

Helluva road trip for you from CA tho.

[veggieburglar]

Yeah Pisgah and DuPont are awesome. Lots of miles of fun out there.

It’s also not inconceivable.... especially now that both my MTB buddy (and best friend) and I are both unemployed.

One of the reasons I live where I do is access to the Santa Cruz Mountains, but that’s all closed down at the moment.

Edit- there’s probably Gucci dirt out there right now too!

[t3rabytes]

It would be! But DuPont is closed by the state and the Forest Service has closed some of the trailheads in Pisgah, so :/

If you ever head out this way to ride, let me know! I'm on Twitter @ my HN username -- hit me up!

(I live in central NC right now)