[mntmoss]

Whether it works or not depends on how much your relationship is built on systematic, empirical decisions. Spreadsheets like this are hugely common in larger communal living arrangements.

And there is a harsh quality to it, but I don't think the people knocking this strategy fully appreciate the danger of a relationship built on illusions or delusions. If you come to me saying "true love overcomes all" or somesuch I'd be seriously concerned about gaslighting or codependency taking hold.