| > No one said facts aren't important. They said facts shouldn't be the focus. Splitting hairs. > And what's with "society today"? When was society any different? About 20 years speech codes and communication frameworks were mocked openly and treated with scorn (as they should be). Today not so much. > There are worse things. People take a whole semester course on compilers and most don't use any of that knowledge. The majority of technical courses I took in undergrad were never used for anything at work. The communications workshop has been more valuable than those. This is a general misunderstanding by people such as yourself why they teach you these things. The first being "this is how this works under the hood" and the second is that many other problems might have similar patterns to them. It teaches you how to think in a particular way and break down problems. But alas this was lost on you. > And about those bigger problems at work? Try solving them with poor communication. 1) Just speak to people. like adults.
2) Be honest.
3) If someone doesn't seems to know what they mean just say "Does that make sense?" and assume you made an error. It is very simple. > Because you have to deal with these people at work. I mean, if you're a solo developer who doesn't work in a team, then your stance is fine. If people don't want to work with you on a project, it becomes your problem. The world isn't going to change to conform to how you thinks adults "should" behave. It isn't about how I think adults should behave. It how the rest of the world thinks adults should behave. You are there to do a job. > This is classic way to deny yourself of agency and put the onus on others. I once told a manager of mine to stop using the word "should" - it's a way of saying "I don't want to deal with this - it is someone else's fault". Not at all. I've accepted there things I can control (myself) and there are things I largely cannot control (other people). You seem to framing this like I go around being verbally abusive to my co-workers. > And you are willing to disclose this in an interview? I am a contractor. I am brought in to do specific jobs. I don't spend years working at the same place. If I don't like it somewhere I just don't extend the contract. I also don't particular respect lifers and company men. But I tend to keep that to myself. > You conveniently ignored the rest of my comment where the perception this happens is fairly common. No one is acting hostile, but the outcome is similar. Because the premise was a nonsense. |