[TheAdamAndChe]

Strong moderation in real life occurs all the time, but because the feedback is immediate, behavior modification of the individual generally occurs much faster than online. For example, if someone calls you a derogatory name to your face, you will either disengage or get mad back, both of which providing negative reenforcement for that behavior. Such negative feedback loops exist everywhere in our social communications.

[shadowbanthrow]

Those are not the sole two options one has available when called a derogatory name. A fun third option is to completely ignore it and demonstrate in that ignorance that you've already won the conversation, which breaks the negative reinforcement you're discussing.

Seriously, next time someone goes after you, try it. Laugh and move on. It's really, really fun to watch what people do in response, because their anger at not landing the desired effect often manifests in physical twitches. Don't give people what they want until it benefits you.

[thewebcount]

> you will ... disengage

Isn't that what the GP said?