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Thanks for the supportive message, and if I am completely honest to you, I find it very hard to think like you do. In response to each of your steps: Step 1: I will try to do this, however, what I am most afraid of is that my past dictates what I can be in the future. Therefore, since I cannot see any "successes" in the last 5 years of my life, "25% of it", I cannot imagine my future going any better. Step 2: Yes, I understand this perfectly. I've suffered from some help problems and you're than 100% right. Step 3: Well, that's hard to do as once George Costanza said Seinfeld said "You know, we live in a SOCIETY". I believe that one of the most important aspects of our lives is to feel comfortable where we live in, and thus simply "ignoring" what our society considers failure and success is simply impossible. I do however indeed share the sentiment that this is not something objective. Step 4: Oh boy. This is a very hard one for me. It's impossible for me to think like that, because it seems like we since we are little are rewarded for being better than someone, for having better grades, for being more popular and whatnot. Later on in our lives we are rewarded for having a better job w/ more money, a better SO on average if we are a better, etc... This is why I simply cannot think that it's enough to do my best, and I understand this mindset is not only self-defeating but straight out detrimental, but I don't know what to do about it. Step 5: No comment. Thanks for your response again, however I am asking for the opposite, so to speak. I'm tired of being myself, I'm tired of living life wandering around with no compass and the consequences of being like that. That's why I created this post. |