[vibrolax]

I had to come to grips with this when I entered university 45 years ago. I went to an extremely dumbed-down high school (especially in math), and had no idea how to make myself grind my way to competence in any subject that didn't come naturally. It took over a year to learn how to learn hard (for me) things. Fortunately, I was able to join a supportive peer tutoring network that helped me overcome the holes in my education and approach to learning. The light went on when I accepted if I wanted to succeed, I would have to spend 10 good hours working a 1 hour problem set. The majority of people just don't want to make a 10x effort to learn things that frustrate them. It's especially hard to grind when you feel surrounded by people who succeed seemingly effortlessly.