[bobloblaw45]

Heh...yeah right there with ya bud. I've learned to just kinda internalize it. But on a bad day that can be difficult. Like when you hear someone saying how you just need to take a chance and mention something like dipping into savings or the possibility of living off your spouses income for awhile and it's simply not possible. And the sting of some of the responses you get...they're not wrong. They're 100% right. But still, it sorta feels like you've walked into a nice restaurant off the street and are shocked at the prices. And you notice others giving you a disappointing look and hear someone mumbling "Why are they even here if they can't afford it."

For some of us just getting to the point where you're able to take a chance is a goal. And if we're lucky enough to achieve that, it's not the lack of backbone that keeps them from taking that chance. It's that the equation for them is different. Failing for these people isn't falling on their face but falling on their face from 3 floors up. There's much more to lose and we're intimately familiar with what it's like at the bottom. It's more than living comfortably but the sense of pride in being able to support yourself and loved ones that you simply can not risk. Not being able to do those things truly makes you feel worthless and if you achieve that and have half a brain you wouldn't want to risk it in a million years.