[hombre_fatal]

Having different standards for different speakers is exactly what you're doing.

Criticizing how a message is delivered is standard HN criticism. Especially the sort of "everyone is smart except for me" tone of TFA. I myself criticize commenters here for that as it's something I can't stand, either.

Why would you think it's something we only see leveled at women here? And, according to what? And, yes, you're then infantilizing women when OP does receive that criticism. I think your heart is in the right place, but you're doing exactly what you think you're condemning.

[Misdicorl]

I don't think this type of criticism is only leveled at women. I think it is

a) much more likely to happen for much softer offenses

b) much more likely to become the primary conversation rather than an aside buried three levels deep in the comments

Perhaps in this instance Rachel's rhetoric was so off-putting that it really deserved top billing for conversation/criticism here. But that doesn't ring true for me, and I sincerely doubt the conversation/top post would be the same if instead written by e.g. Carmack