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> I've also found it personally helpful to reframe failure as 'learning experience' and now you know more of what works and what doesn't (rather than a direct evaluation of some fixed ability), this helps embrace failure and growth without constantly doubting yourself or thinking that you may just not have the capacity to do what you want.

In fact, you can go further, and aim to fail. (Not in the sense of sabotaging yourself, but in the sense of doing things you're pretty sure are above your skill level, in the knowledge that you're unlikely to succeed at them, but are likely to learn from them.) Go in with the goal of learning as much as possible from the experience; and if you actually succeed, well, that's a pure bonus.

This is what Rejection Therapy is about, but it's also the basis of scientific positivism: you aim to prove the null hypothesis ("there is nothing interesting going on here.") Then you either succeed at proving that—and learning more about what hypotheses are worth making—or you fail to prove the null hypothesis, and instead discover some entirely-novel piece of knowledge about the world.