[ada1981]

An app that matches people, gets feedback on dates, and then if they couple up, gets regular feedback on how they are in relationship / during a break up. Then that score comes with them back into the dating app.

Truth is, an app isn’t going to solve for people’s insecure attachment styles and malAdaptive coping strategies.

Perhaps an app that matches based on symmetrical childhood traumas would be a hit.

[JoshTriplett]

> An app that matches people, gets feedback on dates, and then if they couple up, gets regular feedback on how they are in relationship / during a break up. Then that score comes with them back into the dating app.

What incentive does anyone have to keep using the service to provide such "feedback" if they find their match, leaving aside the creepiness factor of a service asking for such information? (And please, don't create such an incentive.) If they find their way back into the service, then (ignoring relatively rare cases) something didn't work out.

[ada1981]

Communication within a relationship is a big deal.

So, a service that helped people gain awareness of their patterns and provided a mechanism for mutual feedback would be useful to someone who is interested in improving the skills of love and relationship.

There already exist apps that people use for feedback and communication in romantic relationship.

And, most relationships end (they all do eventually to mortality). How they end is very telling of the success of the next one.

The problem isn’t really the matching algorithms, it's that people lack the understanding and modeling of how to have healthy adult relationships, they carry a lot of unprocessed trauma, and they don't have a context or tools to work through those old patterns.

It's like making an HR app to match a lot of aspiring kindergartners to AI jobs or the space program.