[orev]

The “just find another job” trope is tiresome and overused. This seems to be commonly thrown around in a hand-wavy way, and it ignores a large part of reality.

The idea that one can just move to another job is a luxury in many places. Many areas have only one or two employers, so there’s simply no place to go.

There’s also the fact that no matter where you go, you will likely always find someone you don’t get along with. Learning to deal with those people is a life skill.

[watwut]

Not just luxury, but it is making us collectively incapable of dealing with bad actors. Over time, we (as an industry or culture or whatever) are loosing behaviors and skills needed to expose or minimize harm.

Meanwhile, culture is increasingly dictated by bad actors - making it even harder to oppose them. For example, some of what is said to be "professionalism" are basically rules that make it harder to deal with bad actors or companies.

[iamzozo]

I meant move on as thinking, not switching a job. I’m working in an enviroment where are limited options to switch. Dealing with it, as you don’t do it. As others also wrote about bad actors. You cannot go on a path where you won’t find any. From my point and experience, sometimes you shouldn’t care. If you don’t like 5% of your coworkers or just one, thats totally fine. But if I want to go further, you may not dislike them. They are just not the same. I don’t think the only way is some scientific/psycholgical explanation to get over with them.

Edit: I switched because of this, taking the risk, it’s worth it. At the current place I got another bad actor, but we could manage these differences.