[loons2]

Your actions, dictated by your subconscious, are at odds with what your conscious mind thinks is best.

To bring the two into alignment, something needs to be reframed. You can either convince your subconscious that the current behavior is detrimental, or preferably, just how beneficial the alternate, desired behavior will be.

Hypnotherapy, self-hypnosis and NLP are probably the best ways to accomplish that.

When I quit a 2-pack-a-day habit 24 years ago, it wasn't through "self-control and discipline" but by reframing self-image from "smoker" to "non-smoker." The difference between "I will not smoke this cigarette right now" and "I am a non-smoker" maybe doesn't seem like a lot, but the difference between an action and a self-identification is significant.

[treyfitty]

That’s how I quit too. But I’m convinced this came at a price- the time spent under cognitive dissonance has impacted my self confidence and self worth a non-negligible amount. To counteract this, I followed the same strategy and framed myself as “I’m a very confident person,” but overcompensated by being an objective asshole.

Today, I would still consider myself an asshole in certain situations, but that’s precisely the thing about being an asshole- it’s binary and not allowed to be subjected to the disclaimer “* asshole only in certain situations.” I’m still working on that.