[lotsofpulp]

Everyone knows that, but everyone, like you I suspect, is playing the game to optimize their children’s (or family’s) position in the social order.

Desire to secure their future resource/financial security really throws a wrench in “letting it all go”.

[brudgers]

In the social order of surfers, optimization is living at the waves so the kids can surf with mom and pop. And with grandma and grandpa when there are grandkids. Locals are always the top of every surfing pecking order.