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by fomojola 2330 days ago
Very interesting: this is one possible explanation for all the times I've heard someone say something that doesn't make sense to me, and I go "Can you hear yourself right now? How did that sound to you when you thought about saying it".

And I guess the answer is no: they can't. This might genuinely be the first time they've heard those words uttered.
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swinglock 2330 days ago
Sorry for the unsolicited feedback and I know that it was an example, but to me saying that in particular is quite rude.

If you did not understand what your peer said you would likely get a better response if you said you did not understand and try to ask a question to have it phrased in another way.

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fomojola 2329 days ago
No apologies necessary: I generally try to be as generous as possible when interpreting people's words. In pretty much every case where I've actually done that the person I was talking to agreed that the words didn't quite match the intended message.
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