[narrator]

I think American women forget that marriage is a team sport not a struggle for feudal dominance of one partner over the other. It seems with American women there is always a very precise accounting of slights, perceived or otherwise, that are used to demand payment in humiliation or suffering of the other. It's like they're on the "Women team", always thinking to themselves what the "Women team leaders" will think of them in every situation in their struggle against the multiple centuries of male patriarchy-- instead of being on the family team. They destroy relationships to please the contrived abstract ideals they've been indoctrinated to worship and fight against their desires for a relationship based on team work and mutual shared goals.

[Dylanlacey]

If you s/American women/some people often women/ , your statement will be more accurate.

[tertius]

Those who do what you suggest should be taught in a loving relationship how negative their behaviour is. Even if the media encourages it.

If there is dominance by either partner, the relationship will have difficulty staying healthy in the long run.

As you say, family first. Both should view the other as having more importance than themselves. Not just one or neither.

[derefr]

> If there is dominance by either partner, the relationship will have difficulty staying healthy in the long run.

I think you mean, if there is dominance by both partners (i.e. one partner asserts dominance and the other resents them for it, or both partners vie for dominance), the relationship will have difficulty staying healthy in the long run. Well-defined D/s relationships, on the other hand, can be quite healthy.