[nightbrawler]

Used to communicate with a bunch of friends via AIM, then Google Talk (XMPP), then Yahoo IM... we gave up after the last one shutdown.

What's the goto XMPP service these days?

[ppjet6]

I've been prosody for about 10 years now and I've always been happy with it. You can get it at https://prosody.im, and if necessary there's a good tutorial at https://homebrewserver.club/configuring-a-modern-xmpp-server...

EDIT: I might have misunderstood "service" thinking you wanted to self-host.

[upofadown]

Dunno. I think you just pick a server you like and use that:

* https://list.jabber.at/

[Boulth]

If you don't want to self host I'd recommend https://account.conversations.im/ it's paid but properly maintained to have all extensions for modern experience. If you don't want to pay just pick something with good grades from https://compliance.conversations.im/old/