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by Johnny555 2344 days ago
Pairing people romantically is so hard to do that dating platforms can count on a long string of revenue from clients.

It's going to take many meetups before I find the woman of my dreams, but chances are pretty good that the first maid I get paired with will meet my needs (worst case, maybe I'll need to try one or two more), after a few successful visits, then I can offer to pay direct and cut out the middleman.
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woutr_be 2344 days ago
Don't people usually cut out the middleman on dating apps straight away? From my experience, after the initial connection, and before the first meet, you usually exchange numbers, and continue through anything else but the dating app.

In that aspect, I don't see how it's different than pairing with a maid.

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jmull3n 2343 days ago
You would only need to be paired with one maid though.
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woutr_be 2343 days ago
Correct, and if that maid is a match, you proceed. How is that different from a dating site? In theory they only have to match you with one other person.

But my main point was; on dating sites the middle man is almost always cut out instantly. Usually you try to immediately exchange numbers, and then proceed from there.

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Johnny555 2343 days ago
I don't know if you're tried online dating, but in my experience, it hasn't been "sign up for a month, find your wife and you're done".

I spent several years off and on with online dating (went on a lot of first dates, fewer several week relationships, and a few multi-month relationships) -- dating sites tend to give a steep discount for longer term (6mo, 12mo) subscriptions, so I was a subscriber for most of that time.

Ending up finding my wife offline though.

On the other hand, I found a housekeeper on Craigslist, called some of references (one was a neighbor), hired her, used her for a year, then when she moved out of the area, she referred me to someone else.

Turns out it's a lot easier to find a housekeeper than a romantic partner.

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woutr_be 2343 days ago
That's a lot of assumptions tho.

My experience with online dating has been the same, however mostly it's; match with a person, exchange a few words, exchange numbers, move on to WhatsApp. Yes, I do need to go back, but the middleman is almost always cut out instantly.

That said, my experience with finding a housekeeper has been the opposite of yours. I've had 4 different ones, and I ended up hiring none of them. This is not necessarily due to their professional skills, but mostly due to availability and trust. Just like finding a romantic partner. It's easier, but definitely not like you described for me. Hence why I saw them both as the same thing.

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Johnny555 2343 days ago
My experience with online dating has been the same, however mostly it's; match with a person, exchange a few words, exchange numbers, move on to WhatsApp. Yes, I do need to go back, but the middleman is almost always cut out instantly.

But don't they already have your money by then? They don't care if you stop chatting within their platform since you've already paid

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r_deckard 2343 days ago
You probably need to go back to the dating site multiple times until you finally found "the one". Exchanging numbers and using the dating site service, again and again, multiple times.

Whereas when you're looking for a maid, you probably only need to exchange number once, and that maid will probably suit your need just fine for a really long time.

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toohotatopic 2343 days ago
Or is it not, and dating platforms make it difficult on purpose for people to return?

There was a comment some days ago along the lines of somebody being ordered to switch off a matching algorithm because it was too good.

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