[cdiamand]

A strategy that I've found helpful in getting more done, and feeling more motivated to work on side projects is to cut away extraneous distractions.

As soon as I put away videogames, and TV time for a few days I not only found that I had more TIME to work on projects, but also working on those projects felt much more rewarding.

In the end it sounds like you're going to need to make more time for your projects. Maybe this means getting up earlier and getting some stuff done before work? Maybe it means negotiating less hours at work?

It's made a huge difference in helping me launch my latest project - http://topstonks.com (we're literally doing our "Show HN" right now.)

Good luck!!