[Al-Khwarizmi]

It felt good to me (and I think to her, too) when nurses called my partner "mom" after pregnancy. It was like when a sergeant performs some heroic deed in a book and the general suddenly calls them colonel: a hard-earned title (it took a lot of pain to finally earn it, and some fears of miscarriage before that...) to wear with pride.

They are very personal and emotional moments so I can totally see how it can rub different people different ways, though.

[tehlike]

I think calling her mom was ok, but saying things like "how are you" vs "how is the mom doing", "is mom feeling any pain" etc felt less personal.

[nikkikayauthor]

Oh yeah. I can see how that would be irritating to say the least. Please use second person and address me directly, don’t talk around me. I literally don’t remember anyone actually asking me anything until I was in the ER with 104 temp wondering if attempting to have a child might actually kill me instead. And even then it was like, “why you crying?”