[neokantian]

Well, that is the way it seems to work out. The divorce rate here is very, very low. However, when people move back, they get caught up in the same (high) divorce rate of the place where they are moving to. In my opinion, family breakdown is very contagious. That is why married people better stay away from divorced ones. Well, that is how it works here. Divorcees are no longer accepted in the community. I think that this approach makes sense, simply, because it works.

[seszett]

You are basically saying that the main (only?) reason for your wife to stay with you is peer pressure because she would otherwise no longer be welcome in "the community", which sounds awfully like abuse to me.

I'm still not sure what you meant by "rape" in your comment, but I'm not sure anymore I want to know.