[sojournerc]

Curious how labeling the personality as "on the spectrum" makes it more palatable? Not asking from snark, just genuinely curious.

As I think about it, it gets to what's wrong with the idea of expecting to be friends, or to always get along congenially with co-workers, when in fact the reason for interaction in a business is to produce something of value.

No doubt this unpalatable person was impressively productive in both yours and OP's stories, and in a business environment, I wish that could weigh heavier than the difficult personality...

Don't think I have a point, but am genuinely curious why having a diagnosis for the behavior makes it easier to accept

[cerberusss]

> Curious how labeling the personality as "on the spectrum" makes it more palatable

It eliminates malicious intent. If you know they can't help it, you still might think it's not worth working with them. But you know that it's not personal.

[istjohn]

An analogy would be a coworker who studiously ignores your friendly greeting everyday. You decide they must think you're below them or not worth the time of day until one day you learn that they are deaf and were completely unaware of your greetings.