[Mz]

You need something that runs deeper in your life than she did. That isn't necessarily a new woman, though it can be. Then it really won't much matter anymore what she said.

Let me recommend the movie "Beyond Rangoon" as a place to start building a mental model of what I mean. Bite off more than you can chew and all that.

[dufusheart]

I like that way of looking at "find something cool to do."

[Mz]

It probably needs to be more than just "cool". Volunteer at a homeless shelter or do something else that has the potential to move you to tears and make you feel your problems are just kind of whiny and insignificant. Not to belittle your pain, but to give yourself a larger view -- and to expose you to strong emotion of the cleansing kind. If you're torn up to the point of distraction about being dumped by someone who said mean things to you, then you probably need to live more. There are much bigger, grittier things going on in the world. Go take a sip from the firehose of life and forget this person.

Peace. And good luck in your journey.