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"Every day you're breathing is a good day." isn't something that happy people or grateful people say. If you are happy or grateful, you wouldn't even think to say it. Being happy is a state of being that doesn't require rationalization or justification. Happy children or even happy dogs are in the state of happiness and don't require lies like "Every day you're breathing is a good day.".

It's been my experience that people who are unhappy or discontent try to "persevere" with trite mantra like "Every day you're breathing is a good day.".

My father used to say that a lot like your grandfather. And I suspect, like my father, your grandfather was dissatisfied and unhappy. He, like my father who fought in vietnam, probably also suffered through PTSD for his entire life from the horrible things he saw and did in war.

Honestly, if the only thing you can be grateful for is "breathing", then you might as well be a plant.

During the happiest times in my life, I've never even thought to say "Every day you're breathing is a good day.". It was only during the unhappy times in my life, that you have to resort to such quotes and mantra.

[elSidCampeador]

I respectfully disagree. What's "trite" for you might not be trite for someone else.

> Honestly, if the only thing you can be grateful for is "breathing", then you might as well be a plant.

What a weird time to be alive - apparently there is a minimum inescapable standard of what I (or anyone else) can be grateful for.

[Diederich]

I think I understand the basic sentiment behind all of what you're saying, and I do appreciate you sharing it. I only have time to respond very briefly.

I suspect there are some (fairly reasonable) assumptions behind your assessment here.

First, my grandfather didn't say much at all. He was quiet and reserved, with only a few friends. He said "...breathing is a good day.", perhaps eight or ten times in the 18 years I lived with him, and the following 15 years I'd visit. And it was always in response to me or someone else complaining about trivial stuff.

To be clear: he wasn't repeating that statement like a mantra.

> Honestly, if the only thing you can be grateful for is "breathing" ...

Far from it; it's a baseline of gratitude, not in any way exclusive.

> During the happiest times in my life, I've never even thought to say "Every day you're breathing is a good day.".

For me as well! And likely my grandfather's perspective as well.

> ...grandfather was dissatisfied and unhappy ... PTSD ...

My grandfather definitely dealt with PTSD for many years, but he was 49 years old when I was born, and there were few signs of it left while I was growing up.

To be clear: my grandfather was far from dissatisfied and unhappy. In simple, straightforward ways, he enjoyed his life, through and through.

Finally, I'll note that I am I just sharing this personal anecdote with the deep understanding that every experience and circumstance is different. It is my hope that your father found or is finding peace.