[username90]

> But why talk shop on a date at all though?

Because lots of programmers loves to talk about code?

> A shared niche interest is not sufficient basis for a good relationship.

Then what is a good basis for a relationship? A shared interest in ubiquitous interests like food, blockbusters or travel? I don't think that is much better.

> I’m a woman in tech and I don’t necessarily wanna talk code on a first or second date, I’ve got professional development figured out on my own time.

Good for you, not everyone feels like that though.