Please explain to me how it's worse? I find it offensive because it's discussion of sexuality and a sexually charged topic in a massively inappropriate setting. If I was a female, why should I feel worse? Just because the performers there are female?
Yes. It's like saying if your colleagues are using the N-word and making racist statements, would African Americans in the room feel worse than the white people? Yes they would.
No matter how "woke" or allied you think you are, there's no way the lived experience of a white person reacts the same way to people reinforcing systemic racism than that of those who have to live under that experience.