The Greek and Roman philosophers had these concerns solved ages ago with the Stoics and others. Happiness comes from within, whatever situation we might find ourselves in.
And more spot on the cynics, whose name just says it : get inspired from those dogs. (although admittedly their name comes from the "swift dog's gymnasium", their gathering place, they themselves started embracing the pun as it was very fitting with their reasoning)
Hollywood popularized Han Solo, Clint Eastwood, and the likes as the Stoic Male archetype which recently became the poster boy for toxic masculinity.
Shame though, because Stoic derives from Latin for porch. The Stoics sat and shared their ways of a happy life on porches.
Stoicism does not subscribe itself to the male gender - it is a pursuit, much like Taoism or Buddism, to reach peace within the Logos, or rather the grand chaos that is the universe itself.
Anyone of any descent or gender may become one with the Logos.