[luckydata]

yeah but it also takes someone willing to make time for it. It's difficult to find. I had a reasonably close acquaintance tell me "between work and family I'm booked until the end of the year" which sounds like bullshit to me (I also have a job and family).

Usually I take that as "you annoy me" and just refocus on other relationships. Then he comes out of nowhere and invites me to a BBQ six months down the line, or to hang out with him at his place.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[malandrew]

I'm one of these people that is bad at hanging out with others. I want to hang out with people, but life can be exhausting and sometimes you just want to cancel (or not even make plans) so you can just stay home and rest.

I think one of the things about modern life, especially urban life, that makes things most complicated is that it is increasingly harder to mix friends so instead of some stable group you hang out with when you're feeling like it, you end up having to juggle multiple individual friendships and your own personal time.