[poutrathor]

"Time" : https://www.futurity.org/friends-time-1718952-2/

It's actually pretty fast actually. 200 hours is nothing.

What really happens is that grown up don't invest the required hours because their days are already filled to the brink.

200 hours would be 1 hour drink 4 time a week during a whole year. Once you word it that way, for sure, you got a friendship running !

Or as someone said below being in deep shit. First, while in deep shit, you spend many consecutive hours with your partner(s) adding toward the 200 hours theoretical threshold. Second, helping each others is a very fundamental dynamic in friendship, I suspect it's happening at reverse here : rather than becoming friends, thus helping each other, people who starts by helping each other then are friends (monkey brain power).

So maybe you should advice people wanting to make friends to join charities and other helping works : several time a week, selfless environment.

[pavel_lishin]

> Or as someone said below being in deep shit.

Yeah. There's ways to force or speed up the process. I think a lot of corporate team-building activities are basically this; "let's go do something miserable to simulate closeness."

[mattbrewsbytes]

A funny outcome, possibly intentional, is a cheesy activity may force the common bond just because they are all going thru the miserable activity.

[wincy]

Unfortunately if you're in deep shit you'll (or at least I did) discover most of your friends give you a whole lot of "space". I get it. My kid almost died, it was a major bummer. She's doing okay now, can we hang out again?