[RedBeetDeadpool]

Sounds like you could use a bit of help. I've had a lot of similar issues as those you mentioned. My advice is: read a lot of books on how to deal with narcissism, and psychopathy. `in sheeps clothing` is one I liked. `beating the work place bully` is another. There might be tons of better sources, but those are the ones I read. Part of the issue is some people will take everything from you if left unchecked, and you can do very little to make them realize they're harming you (think Trump). And even if they realize it, it only stops them that one time. So aggress-ing these people is something that needs to be done often. You have to judge-judy their ass at least a few times every time you have a conversation with them.

Also read about wait vs interrupt culture [https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/LuXb6CZG4x7pDRBP8/wait-vs-in...]. Generally women are spoken over by men at work. And of the men its the loudest and largest egos that get their voices heard regardless of quality or veracity of words. Most statements are just opinions, and because the dunning-kruger effect grants these people with confidence, they will just speak whatever opinion they have as facts.

You should also really try and meet people you can connect with outside of work, I find having people around helps as a mental shield to all the toxic people in your life. Because work can be competitive, people have tendencies to play the asshole card there far more often than in other aspects of life. It helps with sanity to have a better balance of people. Try meetups/clubs (for coders? for girl coders?, I'm in a book club and I like it), or classes (yoga? dance? martial arts?), or try volunteering (a place where you might find more people with empathy). Or do all of those combined.