[codewritinfool]

Awful. My wife has a terminal illness and I'm struggling to work while taking care of her and shopping and cleaning and laundry and cooking and pets and school, etc.

When I say I'm struggling to work, I'm struggling to be clear-headed and effective at work. My co-workers are AWESOME and are helping to shoulder the load, and the upper management has been great giving me time to deal with appointments. I am contributing, but I know I'm not up to what I usually do.

I'm presently talking to some mental health professionals while getting the family to step up and help a bit, but it doesn't lessen the strain as much as I had hoped.

[tomjen3]

A loved one with a terminal illness is naturally going to take enough of your focus that you can't contribute as much as you otherwise could. Don't beat yourself up on that one, just enjoy the time you have left and focus on making as many memories as possible.

[rv-de]

Even minor relationship hiccups can cause me to work at 30% barely being able to focus. In those times I just think that a work culture that implicitly expects its participants to deliver a constant quality level can only be considered inhumane.