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by throwaway010718 2424 days ago
"What option women settle on because of that isn’t yet clear".

Well from my experience it isn't settling for an older man.

When I was in my 30's and making $100K+ I tried on-line dating and was pleased at how many desirable women responded to my profile. Assuming that would always be the case, I decided to focus on my career and postpone getting into a serious relationship.

At 47 I decided to "settle down" and resume on-line dating. With a target age range of 34 to 40 since I would like to have children. I am millionaire, tall, good looking, muscular, high-income, etc. But the only responses I received are from women 50+. Not sure how this ends for me but at the moment I feel a sense dread.

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I'm not interested in starting an American women flamewar.. but I've traveled extensively in the developing world for work, and I'm pretty sure that women in other countries would be much more inclined to accept an age gap with that type of net worth.

I don't have hard statistics and won't try to look them up.

This is going to sound harsh, but: better luck next incarnation.
7 billion people in the world, there's someone for everyone out there.
In your situation, I would seek out the services of a professional matchmaker. Online dating is going to garbage considering the resources available to you. If kids are important, I’d even move the lower age bound to 27.

Just my two cents, I’m a bit younger than you but similar means, married but in an open relationship and date. Be picky, but cast a wide net.

Possibly worthless advice, but I’d suggest you date someone your own age and adopt.
Online dating is a scam. You have better chances taking to random strangers.