[nishantvyas]

+1.

Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is “I am bad.” Guilt is “I did something bad.” - Dr Brene Brown. Failure treated as a guilt may lead to learning and be fixed, but if treated as Shame may lead to depression.

[TuringNYC]

I get your point, but this is a bit simplistic. One also has to realize when a game is full out rigged — you did your best (perhaps the best) and you still failed because perhaps success wasn’t allowed for you. Then you need to learn to play a different game.

Sort of like when college failures end up as leaders and go into tell everyone to work hard because obviously that is what is stopping everyone else /s