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by DoreenMichele 2437 days ago
That framing comes across like "Women are losers with no lives anyway, amirite?! So, fuck em!"

Ideally, a healthy social contract benefits all involved parties and doesn't sacrifice some particular subgroup so that everyone else can be happy, but they're screwed no matter what they do because all options open to them are horrible.
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toomuchtodo 2437 days ago
We don’t have a healthy social contact. My impression was that’s what this thread was about, and what my comment you’re responding to observes (I don’t call women “losers”, nor do I believe that they are or that they have no lives).

Most options are poor options, through little fault of the individual. You’re doing the best you can with the hand you’ve been dealt.

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DoreenMichele 2437 days ago
I was a homemaker for a lot of years. It's a thing I've thought a lot about.

When 1+1=3 and you divide the pie such that everyone gets more than they would have on their own, no, it's not all downside and it's not unhealthy.

It's all downside when 1+1=3, but one party consistently gets less than what they would have on their own. Then, why should they go along with this?

That's where you get bitter people.

Edit: For the record, you've done a lot of editing of both of your comments here, which potentially changes how my replies look. I did my best to not personally accuse you of anything and to only state that the way the comment was written was not coming across well.

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toomuchtodo 2437 days ago
No worries, I wish HN tracked edits. I tried to keep my comments as non directed as possible to focus on ideas, not people.

Your comments stand on their own, and it has been pointed out I have made edits (which I’ve attempted to make in good faith).

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