[icotyl]

Some had frat house vibes, some didn't.

In any case, I think I'm pleasant and easy-going at work, and I do a good job, which makes other peoples' job easier. If someone would become "miserable" because I was hired... well, OK, but that might say more about their personality than mine.

[com]

Yes, absolutely it says more about their limitations or concerns than it does about your own!

Unfortunately a mismatch in expectations is probably a reasonable (but not good!) reason not to hire.

The hiring party gets to choose, and if their choices are for what they think are local maxima that you don’t fit, they get to own the consequences of not hiring you.