[jeffdavis]

There are two separate issues: speaking ill of the dead at all; and speaking disrespectfully too soon after a death.

Speaking ill of the dead at all is generally not good because the person is no longer able to defend their reputation, and no remedy can be made. The dead is no longer in a position of power to be removed, nor can they improve themselves out of remorse. So of something ill is to be said, saying it after death is too late, not too soon.

"Too soon" is problematic because you are using a death as an opportunity to amplify your own message, and because it can amplify the grief of those left behind.

[p1necone]

I don't know that I consider calling people out for shitty things they've done to be "disrespectful". Calling people out for shitty things they haven't done would be be disrespectful.

[smallnamespace]

The problem with that attitude is that we all live in glass houses.

Unless you truly believed that if we were to go through your life with a fine toothed comb, nobody could find anything at all objectionable?

[fzeroracer]

What about those that were harmed by the individual in question? Does it make sense to shame them into silence when they deal with grief and pain of their own?

We should remember people as they were in totality. That means recognizing that people are human, and humans can be remarkably awful to some while putting on a good face to others.

[milemi]

You totally convinced me, I’m so sorry now for all the bad stuff I said about Hitler.