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by pdpi 2444 days ago
The question you're not asking is "why are people engaging in these behaviours?"

You don't have to deter people from engaging in bad behaviour if those people don't feel motivated to engage in those behaviours in the first place.

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They get motivated when their peers condone it. You and I are the bully. We just need the “right” environment.
Peers who condone bullying are probably being manipulated into doing so, by someone with narcissistic traits who is skilled at whipping up hate towards the intended victims. It's not a normal attitude at all, it's very much a red flag that something quite nasty is going on.
It’s very common and very natural. We all try to find our in- and by extension, out-group.

Narcissists just make the problem much, much worse.