[MauranKilom]

This is really tricky, because sincere and respectful words by one party can still be perceived as hurtful by another. Especially in this issue, there is frequently no middle ground where both parties are happy.

I mean, it's kind of ironic: Calling someone an asshole is undoubtedly rude and aggressive (even when done in good faith). And you said that it's not only ok but necessary when you perceive someone as an asshole. But above you complained exactly about "being rude/aggressive in service of justice". So... which is it?

[ethbro]

Forest, trees. You should call both conservative and liberal assholes assholes.

[MauranKilom]

I did not mean this in the sense of political parties but parties on different "sides" of the pronoun issue at hand.

[ethbro]

I feel it extends the same way. Allegiance is not... politeness and decency.