[bluesnowmonkey]

> [...] our emotional patterns are not tied directly to our genders.

Of course they are. Gender has a direct effect on one's emotional patterns. (Direct effect does not mean only effect, by the way.) Depending on whether you have XX or XY chromosomes (or some other combination), you will grow up with different organs in your body and different hormones in your blood. Such things define your gender, and they directly effect the emotions you experience.

As an example, men are prone to wanting to engage in pistol duels at dawn over minor quibbles.