[jonfw]

For self responsibility to work, you obviously can only accept responsibility for things under your control. If you are taking responsibility for things outside of your control, I think the more appropriate solution is to learn some humility, rather than to adopt a "victim" mindset.

[ljm]

If you look at Karpman’s Drama Triangle, you’ll wonder just how many people fall into the ‘rescuer’ corner, and further than that, how you might get the saviour complex from it.

Just as you say, the response there isn’t to switch to the victim or even the persecutor. The response is to break out of it.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle